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revenge porn PSA.

Hi friends! Today we're going to talk about a little thing called revenge porn.

Before we continue, I would just like everyone to know that if you live in any of the following states, revenge porn is illegal. 

* Arkansas * California * Colorado * Connecticut * Delaware * Florida * Georgia * Hawaii * Idaho * Illinois * Iowa Kansas Louisiana Maine * Maryland * Michigan * Minnesota Nevada New Hampshire New Jersey * New Mexico * North Carolina * North Dakota * New York (as of August 1st, 2017) * Oklahoma * Oregon Pennsylvania * South Dakota Tennessee Texas * Utah * Vermont * Virginia * Washington, D.C. West Virginia * Wisconsin *

And here's a link to all the laws in full, so that we can all be educated on this wonderful little sub-division of sexual assault.

On that note, I would like to give way to a little personal anecdote... 

The other day, I received a VENMO REQUEST from an ex boyfriend with a revenge porn threat. For $200. I was, obviously, completely and utterly horrified, and immediately declined it and sent back a Venmo request for $2000, "for not calling 911". I also took a screenshot of his message. You know, for the police.

Before I get seven hundred thousand messages about how I'm a slut and how it's my fault for taking pictures of myself, I would just like to clarify that I. didn't. even. take. these. photos. This person took pictures of me. While I was completely incapacitated and tied up during sex. So that happened.

Additionally, even if I had taken these photos of myself, that would be fucking normal. Everyone has sex with their boyfriends, and everyone takes pictures. And women take pictures because men beg them to. Not because it's a female hobby to stage nude photoshoots for our personal collection. And if it is one of your more personal activities, the more power to you. Be hot and naked for yourself, not for someone who is going to hit you with a revenge porn threat the second you break up.

Let’s make one thing clear here though. On top of being illegal, revenge porn (or threatening revenge porn) also happens to be one of the most lowlife, Trump supporter, misogynistic, weak, unstable, Napoleon complex, murder-y things that someone can do.

So before all members of the Ted Bundy fan club, who are writing into Nikki from their couch, while drinking Smirnoff out of the bottle (you know who you are), decide to sling a bunch of insults that are synonymous to the word whore my way, please pause. I don't really have time for you today.

In conclusion: if anyone threatens to do this to you, you threaten to call 911. And then they go to jail. It's their own life to ruin! Yay!